I was sitting at my desk the other day. My thoughts were on time and how quickly it goes by. It feels like it was just yesterday (ok, well not literally yesterday) when me and my twin sister were moving into our dorm rooms. We were scared out our minds. Homesick, yet super excited to be on our own for the very first time. Fast forward, and the years have really flown by. Many of the people I knew in my college days are now married. Some of them have one kid or more. Most of them are now working grown-up jobs etc.
Things really have changed over the years. It got me thinking: As human being, time acts as a constant reminder of all the things you said you would do. Time makes it even more important to stop procrastinating. It is a reminder of the things you did and did not do. Looking back, I can now see how procrastination has affected my current life. I am not where I want to be and its all on me. The first step I had to take was to admit that I had a problem. It’s normal to look at your current life and take notice of the things you said you would do.
Procrastination is a bad habit. It is also a thief. A shady and sneaky thief. It will steal your time and your dreams. Like any bad habit, procrastination is a symptom of a bigger problem. In my case, it was caused by fear. One of my main reasons for procrastinating was fear and doubt. Having fear and doubt made me think of so many things. I constantly thought about all the things that could go wrong. Fear made me feel as if I was stuck. My immediate reaction was to freeze.
Dictionary.com describes procrastination as:
the act or habit of procrastinating, or putting off or delaying, especially something requiring immediate attention.
Fear made me do less than what I was capable of. It allowed me to entertain distractions in my life. Instead of building on my dreams, I would be watching videos on YouTube. I remember hours spent surfing social media. At times I was shopping online. There were time when I would go out with friends, -knowing full well that I should be working to my goals etc. The truth is, I was putting things off. I was not doing what I needed to do to get where I needed to be in life. My dream life was on hold by default. How crazy is that!
I started to do things unrelated to what I wanted to accomplish in my life. Time went by regardless of what I did or didn’t do. 2011 turned into 2012. 2012 turned into 2013. 2013 went into 2014 etc. As mere mortals (aka humans ) it’s really important to keep in mind that time can be the most unforgiving thing in this world. If you really want to have something in life, go after it. Do not kid yourself. Start today. Resist the temptation to keep putting things off.
These days, anytime I am tempted to procrastinate, I just pause for a second. I go ahead and picture myself a year from now. Do I want to be in the same place that I am at next year? Hell no! Anytime I want to badly procrastinate, I picture myself being stagnant. Not accomplishing my dreams. This really gives me the swift kick in the butt that I need to keep going. Nope, not falling for any distractions. Anytime I am blogging, editing, or taking an e-course; I am careful to avoid the many online distractions. The rabbit hole of online distractions is not something I readily fall into anymore. Having a bad habit has not helped me one bit in my life so far.
I consider myself a recovering procrastinator. The journey (yes, it’s a journey) to get better was not done alone. There are a few books that have really helped me to think differently
Three books really helped me with focus and self discipline. These three books have helped me to discover what my underlying issue was. I was able to narrow down the things that were causing me to keep putting things off.
I do not want you to think that I am 100% perfect and cured. Like any bad habit, procrastination is still something that I struggle with. I consider myself a work in progress. My procrastination is less severe nowadays. There is definitely an improvement, no doubt about it. Three years ago, I struggled alot. I felt helpless. I was much like a cat chasing squirrels. Whether or not you decide to do something with the life you have, the time will pass. Time is a limited resource.
Procrastination will steal the limited resource known as time from you. My hope is for you to feel encouraged. Remember that it is possible to put a stop to your bad habits. You can beat this destructive habit if you are determined enough. If you struggle with procrastination, just know that it is a symptom of something deeper. It is up to you to find out what is causing you to procrastinate. It is only through your own personal self reflection that will you be able to find the cause.